My prayer and goals has always been to improve myself in different areas of my life. Having a successful marriage is one of my top goals for 2016. I’ve learned to not only look at myself and evaluate what I know I need to work on and the things God has shown me, but the #1 key to having a successful marriage is to:
… “Trista… What does that mean?” I’m glad you asked, let me share with you, what I’ve learned…
I realized through a lot of trial and error, that my way DOES NOT WORK. Even trying to do things my way a little bit, still doesn’t work. I had to come to a place where I either believe God’s word and believe it can do more than I can or I can just keep doing things my way and keep getting the same results, You know, they have a word for that right… Insanity.
Knowing God to be Who He says He is in other areas of my life, such as, keeping His promises, He’s Faithful (Psalm 86:15-NIV). He takes care of me, He’s a Provider (Matthew 6:25-31-NIV) and a Protector (Deu. 31:6-NIV). I know Him to be these things in my life. So, I have to ask myself why can’t I trust Him when He says in His word to do things like submit (1 Peter 3:1-3-NIV), To be quick to listen and slow to speak (James 1:19-NIV) and be a living example of a Proverbs 31 woman to my daughter (Read: Proverbs 31:10-31-NIV).
What does a successful marriage look like? For me, I turn to the word of God, where it says: Ecclesiastes 4:12- “By yourself you’re unprotected. With a friend you can face the worst. Can you round-up a third? A three-stranded rope isn’t easily snapped.” In a marriage where God is allowed to be God.
Psalm 86:15- “But you, Lord, are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness.”
Matthew 6:25-31– ““Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes, Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ ”
Deuteronomy 31:6- “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”
1 Peter 3:1-3– “Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes.”
James 1:19- ” My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry…”
What is your idea of a successful marriage?