I was watching the Steve Harvey show where he talked about “Getting the spice back in the marriage.” It was pretty funny. During that time, my husband and I came from a 5 Love Language class and I decided to combine the two in my post: “Spice up his appetite.”
When talking about the 5 Love Languages Gary Chapman’s book identifies five primary ways we express love. He then establishes how much our relationships can benefit when we’re able to understand and speak all these languages fluently. You can take the test here and find out what’s your love language. My husband and I have taken this class YEARS ago and when we first heard about it, we practiced it and it has turned our marriage around.
I now how what “speaks” to him, even though, the way I’m showing how much I love him is hard for me, I do it because I LOVE him. In the bible the scripture: Proverbs 5:19 “Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant doe [tender, gentle, attractive]—let her bosom satisfy you at all times, and always be intoxicated with her love.”
I LOVE this scripture because the word, INTOXICATED stood out to me. The meaning of the word is: To be drunk, to lose control. Her husband is so drunk with her love. How can we as wives do that? We have to speak our spouse love language and practice it daily.
The 5 Love Language are: Words of Affirmation (To be verbally acknowledged) Quality Time (To enjoy your spouse undivided attention) Receiving Gifts (To be given tokens of love) Acts of Service (To have your spouse do tasks or their “Honey Dew lists” for them) Physical Touch (To be in contact via the body, Non Sexual).
I know my husband’s Love Language is Acts of Service (I know crazy right!) He LOVES it when I make the bed, take the trash out, cook dinner, wash dishes, do laundry, make sure the kids are ready for school, make his breakfast and kids in the morning. When I do these things I’m SHOWING him that I LOVE him, (sometimes I can’t complete tasks because he’s always interrupting me!).
- So in me having the desire to “Spice up his appetite” I can do these tasks, (practicing his love language!) with JUST his t-shirt and high-heels and then…We’ll be playing reindeer games all day!
- Also, my husband loves it when I show an interest in the bills, I talk in a sexy voice. He LOVES this. It speaks to his language and I’m also getting quality time (which is my secondary love language).
- Lastly, my husband loves to be welcomed, when he comes home. I make the time to be there when he gets home and after the kids have welcomed him, I will show him a proper welcome in the bedroom.
Just to give you an idea of how to: “Spice up his appetite” in a language he will receive!
Studies have shown that the least common love language is “Receiving Gifts” I thought on wedding anniversaries, birthday’s, valentine’s day, we spend so much money on gifts, thinking he will LOVE this but we’re not even close to speaking our spouse’s language.
I love to receive gifts but spending time with my husband tops that 100% ALL THE TIME. My love language is Words of affirmation, I love for my husband to tell me how proud he is of me. It just does something to me. He could tell me, a certain pair of shorts or jeans is sexy to him, when I wear it and for me it’s like he gave me a million dollars! I know…crazy right?! but it speaks volumes to me.
I pray that this will give you an idea of how to Spice up your valentine’s, I wanted to try something different. What are your plans this valentine’s day…which is this weekend! (So fast!) 😀