I have three, beautiful children, with a HUGE age gap, almost a 10 year difference. Twins that are entering into that teen stage and I’m preparing my youngest for potty training, so needless to say, I’m pulled in different directions. During this season of potty training my daughter, I tried to think back to the experience I had potty training my twins and I just cringed at the thought of some of the mistakes I made, being a first time mother of twins, learning to potty training two children. I’m going to talk about the top three mistakes I’ve made in potty training…
Mistake #1- Comparing
Comparing my children, to each other, was a mistake and even with other children outside of the family. I felt like a failure as a mom. I didn’t want to be a “Lazy mom.” I was a new mom and didn’t have experience at all taking care of children. I just followed what others did and found really quick that was a HUGE mistake.
Mistake #2- Rushing
I have a boy twin and a girl twin. I was EXTREMELY blessed by having a daughter that, as soon as I showed her how to use the potty, she learned and used it on her own, with no accidents. My son on the other hand, was the complete opposite, It took him until he was almost 4 years old, training him was an awful experience for both me and him. My mistake was comparing my son to his sister, thinking it would be a quick process… It was not!
Mistake #3- Listening to bad advice
I was very frustrated with my son and trying to get him to potty. I would ask friends and older women for advice on how they were successful. I literally had one person say to me, they were able to potty train their child at 6 months and that because mine we’re older, I can be successful to… Ummmm…Yeah… anyway, I didn’t know any better. I felt like if she can do it, then so can I.
Now that you have read my awful mistakes, here are some tips, I’ve learned from the mistakes I’ve made…
Success tip #1-
Don’t Rush the process. If you see that One child was SUPER easy and your next child is the opposite, take your time no matter what. Don’t rush.
Success tip #2-
Make potty training fun. When I started potty training my oldest children, I dreaded it so much. I heard all of the hard, terrible stories of potty training and just carried that same negative energy into the “work” of potty training. I’m taking my time with my youngest daughter, I’m not in a rush at all, I want to ENJOY these moments.
Success potty tip #3-
Reward, Reward, Reward. Rewarding is the BEST part for both you and your child. Let the reward be their favorite candy, ice cream or stickers, etc for using the bathroom, you can share in the rewarding enthusiasm as well.
Success potty tip #4-
Be patient, every child is different… even twins.
Success potty tip #5-
Don’t punishment accidents. When my son made accidents, I felt like a failure as a parent and wanted to fix the problem. Soon I realized, he was learning, just like I was.
I pray these tips helped. Looking back at the mistakes I did, I’m a lot more patient and I recognize signs of when my youngest is ready. With that in mind, It will be more of an enjoyable ride for both of us.