Reading 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman was life changing for my Husband and I. Finding out that his Love Language was Acts of service and acting it out changed our marriage. Here are 10 ways to love your child through acts of service.
Children as well as adults express & receive love in different ways. Each child/teenagers have a need. By understanding each of the five love languages, we can best discern the needs of the child. My Children age ranges from twins 13, soon to be 14yrs old and a 4 year old, soon to be five. So having a range of personalties can be difficult because your instinct is to treat them all the same because its easier, especially twins. Once I got a hold of the five love languages for kids/teenagers it changed how I parent each of them. If you are curious as to what your Childs love language is take the test here. For teens, its a little bit different, they can take the test here.
There’s even a military edition of the 5 Love languages that I LOVE as well, and it spoke volumes to me as a Marine Wife. Even having to express love to someone that deploys a lot can cause division in a marriage and learning how to navigate marriage in the midst of difficulty can be hard. I highly recommend this book.
Physical touch for infants does wonders, as the child gets older, they still long for physical affection. Such as a hug, a pat on the back, a hand shake. These simple gestures speaks wonders for a child with a primary love language as Physical Touch.
Words of Affrimation
Compliments can go a long way. I can speak on this because this is my primary love language. “Your hair looks beautiful.” or “Cute outfit”, “Awesome Job today, cleaning your room.” Saying compliments that appeal to their personality is the key as well.
This is another language I can speak, This is my secondary and children with this love language seek undivided attention. As children get older they are seek out attention in different ways such as, Going to a basketball game, playing a board game with them, taking them to get ice cream or movie speaks wonders to their heart.
Children with gifts as a love language treasure something tangible as love. Gifts that speak to their personality speaks wonders to them. Something simple as their favorite snack, treat, not just on their birthday but “Just because”
Acts of Service
Lastly, Acts of Service is something that is done with them. It’s knowing which activity or acts of service is important to them. It’s finding out what speaks to them personally. For example, This is my Son’s primary Love Language… He knows I love him when I make him his favorite dinner, Children Alfredo. He loves it when I help with his room, when I help with his homework, etc. I have six children (Three Step Children and Three I birth on my own) and he is the only boy. So it’s pretty easy to single him out. The picture below is my son helping my husband Stain the back deck. My son love to help his dad do work around the house.
My son has such a sweet, serving heart and I love to find unique ways that speak to his heart and acts of service is his primary language. Below is a printable, you can freely download to help you with some ideas, if you have a child whose love language is “Acts of Service.”
Interested in learning more about the five Love Languages? Below is more information and Ideas on
Physical touch, Words of Affirmation, Quality time & Gifts. A group of parenting bloggers have joined together to bring you this Mother’s Day 5 Day Challenge!
How to Join!
- Go to our Facebook page post and write–Count me in the #MothersDay5DayChallenge
- Go to your local library and get The 5 Love Languages of Children book or buy it HERE!
- Download the FREE Love Languages Assessment and go over it with your child together if they are young or have them do it on their own if they are old enough.
Then just follow along for the next 5 Days! Each day I will share a video on our Facebook page and discuss one love language. Also, for each day one of our bloggers will share some fabulous practical ideas so you can start using your child’s primary love language.
I will update this schedule each day as the posts go live.
- April 14th –Inspired by Family – The 5 Love Languages Free Assessment
- 16th – Surviving Toddlerhood – physical touch
- 17th – Alynda Long – Words of Affirmation
- 18th – Lila Diller – Quality Time
- 19th- Sip Mom – Gifts
- 20th – A Purpose Driven Wife – Acts of Service