At times marriage, by itself, can feel like a battle field. When two individuals come together, with TOTALLY different backgrounds, life experiences, gifts, abilities, etc. and decide to get married and now learn to live together with differences can be difficult.
Let alone, the fears, pride, the world’s temptations and Spiritual warfare that comes with marriage. There’s a lot just two individuals has to learn about each other and marriage as one.
My husband and I didn’t grow up with examples of what a Godly relationship looked like, Or even a good marriage in general, Who can you go to for help? Here are some tips on how you can get started.
5 ways to protect your marriage
Recognize who’s in control
How do you prepare to protect your marriage? You recognize who is in control. God has the authority in Marriage. No one comes into marriage with all the tools to have a great marriage for the rest of their life without any challenges.
God is the one that has ALL the answers, who created marriage and the BIBLE (Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth!) also has the answers.
Genesis 2:18, 23-24
“Now the Lord God said, “It is not good (beneficial) for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper [one who balances him-a counterpart who is] suitable and complementary for him.
And the rib which the Lord God had taken from the man He made (fashioned, formed) into a woman, and He brought her and presented her to the man.
For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.”
The two shall become one (Like glue) spiritually. It’s a relationship in growing together THROUGH the challenges, the failures, the arguments and allowing God to help shape both parties in the process.
Lastly, Imagine your marriage like a house and to protect your house you put in different tools to protect it. You protect your house or marriage by…
Installing an Alarm System
By definition an alarm system provides external monitoring with an internal system. Our internal system we have as believers in Jesus Christ is… The Holy Spirit! Developing a close relationship with God on your own and together as a couple helps in monitoring and protects your marriage.
There are constant attacks on families and our marriages, Listen to the warning signals the Holy Spirit gives to protect your marriage.
Set up a privacy fence
This means No trespassing. Establishing boundaries in your marriage together. If you’re not careful anything or anyone can help themselves in your marriage and do whatever they want.
Proverbs 7:1-5 (MSG)
“My Son, keep my words and treasure my commandments within you. Keep my commandments and live, and my teaching as the apple of your eye. Bind them on your fingers, write them on the tablet of your heart. Say to wisdom, you are my sister, and call understanding your intimate friend, that they may keep you from an adulteress, from the foreigner who flatters with her words.”
I recommend reading this whole chapter. Full of wisdom and examples of being watchful of your marriage. Also, watch out for time. Time of working outside of the home, be aware of the time separation. Scheduling Date nights is VERY IMPORTANT! At times life can sneak up on you. Jobs, kids after school programs, church activities, the responsibilities of caring for the home kids and everything in between.
Guard Dogs (Friends)
Surround yourself with people who will hold you and your spouse accountable. The Proverbs 31 women talks about how much her husband trusts in her. Verse 11. “Her husband trusts her without reserve and never has reason to regret it.”
Having friends that will not take sides when there’s an argument but points you in the direction of what God says, to help you along the way.
Our Guard Dogs!
Maintain your property
Since owning a house, I’ve never noticed certain things you have to take care of that no one talks about to maintain your own property. There are things like HOA fees that help with maintaining your property, but there things like mowing your lawn, washing your house to make sure there’s no mold on the house, picking up trash in your area, etc.
Maintaining your property, it takes work. Other than date nights, its making sure you both are on the same page, developing your communication, dreaming together, making plans for retirement, etc. helps to main your marriage, making sure its strong and healthy.
We’re maintaining our property together!
What are ways you are protecting your marriage?