Becoming a strong mom you have to recognize your weaknesses. By recognizing your weaknesses, mistakes will happen, I may do things I’m not proud of, I won’t have all the answers for every little tantrum, problem, tears and everything in between that may come up and/or even serious problems that may happen, but God does. Knowing and acknowledging God in my parenting is being a strong mom.
How did I come to this conclusion?
I was listening to a podcast that was talking about a mom who dealt with anxiety and felt overwhelmed by the idea of being a good parent while pregnant. As I listened to the story, I began to reflect on my own personal story of becoming a first time mother. I was not prepared AT ALL. I was a first time mom of twins, I haven’t experienced being around infants or toddlers growing up, I had no experience at all. So here I am between the age of 20-21 becoming a mom to twins. At the time, the idea hasn’t hit me yet, that I’m being trusted with twin babies, with no experience.
God saw fit to bless me with twins, someone with no experience, no money, barely getting by to raise and train them up in the way they should go (Proverbs 22:6). For me, I knew from the gate that I wasn’t qualified to even have children. I had NO Experience. I began to read a book that help me embrace where I was as a mom and to really trust that God knows what He’s doing.
What does being a strong mom mean?
I realize in my 14 years of raising kids that being a strong mom comes with embracing your weaknesses. I KNOW that I am not the next mom that home school’s, that teaches them scripture every night, that… whatever perfect idea there is to being a strong mom… I wasn’t going to be it.
The meaning of the word strong from dictionary.com is: “Having the power to move heavy weights, or perform other physically demanding tasks. Able to withstand great force or pressure.” I’m nowhere near this description without the power of God.
Trusting that God knows what he’s doing
Answer me this question… Would you trust anyone with your kids? Someone with no experience, No knowledge on what to do or even how to raise them in the way they should go (Proverbs 22:6)?
I won’t and don’t. My ideal person is someone who can understand my kids strengths and weaknesses, that can power and out smart her toddler like thinking and help teach her to be someone who has a heart for God.
This sounds similar to what God wants for his children, when he blesses us with children. What happens when we don’t meet that expectation? What is the expectation of raising our kids to LOVE God and His ways, when his or her parents struggle in doing things His way?
I think God wants us to be ourselves, ourself that make mistakes, that yell at our kids, when we don’t cook healthy meals 24/7, instead have them eat cereal 24/7, at times don’t give them baths every night. It’s IN our weakness God is made strong… in our weakness God wants us to depend on Him and His ways (2 Corinthians 12:9-10).
So me being a strong mom is not about what I can do, but about what God can do through me and the children He has blessed me with.
It’s not about me!